Hey there single ladies,
Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. (Proverbs 31:30)
This is just me, writing to you, like you’re my best friend. If there’s a man you really like but it seems like he’s not interested in you and you’re heartbroken over it, keep in mind you’re not the only one feeling that way. Many ladies have gone through it and I myself have been there, done that. Having gone through it (more than once) I’ve come to this conclusion: it’s simply NOT worth it! Seriously, think about it for a minute. If he’s not interested in you, why should you waste your time being sad over it when obviously it’s not meant to be? I know, I know… way easier said than done, but it’s the truth. If the man you like isn’t interested in you, then he’s not worth you wasting your precious time on and do NOT go after him. Do NOT be fake and try to get his attention by trying to be who you think he might like. If it works at first, it won’t last. Be yourself. Also, I’m personally not a fan of wearing make-up much. You might love it, that’s fine. But in all honesty, if what you look like with make-up on is not even close to what you look like with it off, in a way, that’s deceiving. Take that how you want it, but it’s true. You will want him to find you attractive “au natural,” and you want him to like you for more than just your outward appearance; something that lasts longer than looks.
Doesn’t matter if you’ve liked him a day or 10 years; if he’s showing no interest, don’t let it consume your thoughts. If he’s showing no interest it means he’s not interested or not man enough to admit he is, which in either case, you deserve better than that. So stop playing the “what if” and the “if only” scenarios in your head. Fill your time with things that matter and make you happy and do your best to stop thinking about him. When it’s the right time and the right man, you won’t be idly sitting waiting for him; you’ll be enjoying your life. You are special. You are beautiful. You deserve someone who will not only be interested in you but someone who will pursue you and show you how much you mean to him. So be confident in who you are. Don’t daydream about someone who shows no interest in you. Keep your eyes on God. Chase after Him.
Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart. (Psalm 37:4)
As a woman of God, I want a man of God that will pursue me, make it known he wants me and won’t stop when he’s got me. I want a man who isn’t afraid to be a man. I want a man who prays and will know that I’m the one for him… then do something about it! I know that my God is an awesome God! I know He loves me and wants the best for me. He loves you and wants the best for you too. I won’t settle for less than God’s best and you should make that promise to yourself as well. It’s about waiting on God for His timing and in the meantime, seeking more after Him. “A woman’s heart should be so lost in God that a man needs to seek Him in order to find her.” Be that kind of woman.
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. (Proverbs 21:10-11)
What we need to get out of our head is it’s not going to happen like it does in the movies or in books. It’s not going to be the way we’ve dreamed it up in our minds BUT it’s going to be a special and unique love story, written by the author of life itself and it’s going to be beautiful. Until that time comes, we must learn to wait on God. God is faithful and He gives good gifts to His children. We are His children. Until my future husband knows I’m the one for him and starts pursuing me… I will continue serving God and doing what I can to become the best woman of God I can be. And then, when my future husband is in the picture, we’ll be serving God together.
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. (Proverbs 31:25-26)
