HEY THERE SINGLE MEN,

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18)

This is just me, writing to you, like I would a brother (if I had one.) Christian women want a man to pursue them. That means you need to make a move. Obviously if you’re not looking to get married, then this doesn’t apply to you… but if you want to get married in the somewhat near future, figure out what you’re looking for in a woman. Then, when one comes around that seems to fit that description (and she’s single) ask her out to get to know her better. Yes, that means you’re putting yourself out there and if she doesn’t feel the same, you may have your heart broken, BUT if you don’t try, you’ll never know what could’ve been. There’s that saying that goes “if you want big rewards, you gotta take big risks.” If you like a woman and want to get to know her better, ask her out. Understandably, you need to use wisdom and proper timing. If she never speaks to you and ignores you when you’re around, I’d suggest you don’t ask her. But if she’s friendly enough with you, give it a try. Pray about it first.

Fathers can give their sons an inheritance of houses and wealth, but only the Lord can give an understanding wife. (Proverbs 19:14)

Again, if you, reading this, are not looking for the woman you will eventually spend the rest of your life with, then this isn’t for you. Just keep in mind; dating is not a recreational sport. A person’s heart is not something to play with. I’m not saying that if you ask a woman out you have to marry her. There are men that have told stories that God spoke to them and told them that they would marry “that woman” the first time they met. It would be great if that was the case for everyone, but that may not necessarily happen. When you find a woman you’re interested in, you should ask her out. Again, pray about it. Sometimes you may feel prompted by God to ask her out. Sometimes wise friends will give you a nudge towards a woman they think may be a good fit for you. Sometimes you may be friends first and you might like what you know about her and want to get to know her better to see if she could be the right one. Sometimes it might be someone you find yourself thinking about often and when you do, you catch yourself smiling. In these cases, give it a try. God has a sense of humour and works in different ways, so these may be ways He’s speaking to you. It might not be the audible voice of God you hear, but you’ll know when you need to make a move.

You never know how amazing something could be if you don’t try to go for it. Remember, a woman wants a man who will pursue her. At least almost every Christian woman does. So ask God to prepare you and equip you with boldness, courage, whatever it is you need… and take a chance! If she says no, it’s not meant to be. Don’t lose heart, it just means there’s someone out there that’s better for you. Don’t give up. Keep pressing into God and He will reveal the right woman for you, to you. Then the next step is yours. God gave us all free will. It’s your choice to make.

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the LORD. (Proverbs 18:22)