Literally the day after my wedding, on a wedding day post on my Facebook wall, people were “jokingly” taking bets on how many children I would have and how soon I’d get pregnant.
I laughed.
Then, the months following the wedding I got bombarded with these questions and comments…
“When are you going to have a baby?”
“What are you waiting for?”
“You want children, right?
“You shouldn’t wait too long…”
“You have to start soon so you can have a few…”
And so many more… including “Are you pregnant?”
I had gained a few pounds after I got married before I got pregnant, so I had a few people ask me… but “like I’m going to tell you, even if I am, when I haven’t told my family members yet!” Seriously!? I really don’t think anyone should ever ask any woman if she is pregnant, because if she is and wants you to know, she will tell you!
Needless to say, I got a bit annoyed with all these questions and comments coming my way.
Fast forward to when my husband and I started trying, it didn’t take long at all. So all those comments, I just let them go in one ear and out the other.
BUT
I know of women who have been trying to get pregnant for years and haven’t been able to yet.
I know of women that have had a miscarriage, two and even three and it’s not “public” knowledge.
SO
This got me thinking, those questions and comments are not just something that would go in their one ear and out the other. Those would really HURT!
That’s why I’m writing this blog. For all the ladies out there that have been trying, haven’t had a baby yet and are dealing with “well meaning” people asking what they are waiting for, etc.
Straight to the point: it is none of my or your business if someone is married and they haven’t had a baby yet. So STOP asking them questions about it or making comments. If they want you to know the reason why they haven’t had a baby yet, they will tell you. You do not need to ask them!
Let me jump in here and say I am guilty of doing it. But not anymore. No matter how well meaning it may be, I don’t know what they may be going through if they haven’t shared it with me. So from now on, when my friends get pregnant and tell me, I will rejoice with them! If my friends choose to share with me that they are having complications, I will pray with them.
Now I want to share something, if you want children but haven’t had any YET…
REMEMBER HANNAH
She made this vow: “O Lord of Heaven’s Armies, if you will look upon my sorrow and answer my prayer and give me a son, then I will give him back to you. He will be yours for his entire lifetime, and as a sign that he has been dedicated to the Lord, his hair will never be cut.” (1 Samuel 1:11)
When Elkanah slept with Hannah, the Lord remembered her plea, and in due time she gave birth to a son. (1 Samuel 1:19-20)
In due time, God answered her prayer for a child.
REMEMBER SARAH
Then God said to Abraham, “Regarding Sarai, your wife—her name will no longer be Sarai. From now on her name will be Sarah. And I will bless her and give you a son from her! Yes, I will bless her richly, and she will become the mother of many nations. Kings of nations will be among her descendants.” Then Abraham bowed down to the ground, but he laughed to himself in disbelief. “How could I become a father at the age of 100?” he thought. “And how can Sarah have a baby when she is ninety years old?” So Abraham said to God, “May Ishmael live under your special blessing!” But God replied, “No—Sarah, your wife, will give birth to a son for you. (Genesis 17:15-19)
Abraham and Sarah were already very old, and Sarah was past the age of childbearing. (Genesis 18:11)
The Lord kept his word and did for Sarah exactly what he had promised. She became pregnant, and she gave birth to a son for Abraham in his old age. This happened at just the time God had said it would. (Genesis 21:1-2)
God said she would have a child and even though she was way past child bearing age, she had the child God told her she would.
REMEMBER GOD’S WORD
You can ask for anything in my name, and I will do it, so that the Son can bring glory to the Father. Yes, ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it! (John 14:13-14)
Pray and ask God for a child in Jesus name and trust in His timing.
For the word of God will never fail. (Luke 1:37)
Children are a gift from the Lord. (Psalm 127:3)
Nothing is impossible for our God. He is good. He loves us. Every good and perfect gift comes from Him.
If you, reading this, happen to be married and want to have a child but haven’t been able to yet, for whatever reason, please feel free to connect with me and I will pray for you and believe that God will grant you the desire of your heart to become a mother. Whether I know you or not, I will keep your name and anything you share with me about yourself or situation completely confidential.
